Friday, January 25, 2019

Leaving

We arrived at the orphanage the same time as we had all week long, but today was different.

We started out our morning meeting with the director who had invited a local college student to join us.  Over the next 5 months she will be helping our daughter with English lessons. Part of that help will include Skype calls with us every Friday.

It was cold so we left the orphanage and headed straight to the apartment.  

We kept the morning pretty laid back. We played a few games. She wrote down the Bulgarian alphabet for us. We looked at pictures and videos from the week.

She was hungry so she helped Aaron fry some eggs and ham. We let her try a fried egg both runny and cooked to see which she liked better. She boldly tried both.

We watched Frozen’s “Let it go” video while at the same time videoing her watching and singing it. Then we watched that video too.

We gave her a little down time and let her watch a Bulgarian show.

Then it was time to go. She helped us pack the artwork she gave us and we helped pack her backpack full of things we brought for her.

We stopped for a bite to eat and then walked back to the orphanage. We spent a little time there watching “Let it go” again. She said she would miss us.

She walked us to the gate again and along the way jumped into Aaron’s arms off the patio again several times.

We met one of the shift workers on her way in.  She told us that the night before our daughter had been calling out for "Mommy and Daddy".  Our daughter shared that she was dreaming of us, and seemed excited to let us know.

We got to the gate and she hugged us and kissed us several times. Jen tried to hold back tears. We walked away and she yelled for us and ran out and hugged us again. It was hard saying goodbye, but she walked away without tears and said goodbye.

She loves us and enjoys time with us, but anytime we talk about home and the kids, she shuts down. It is like she likes the idea of being with us, but there in Bulgaria, not in the US.

Just pray for her heart and for wisdom for us.

We are spending the night in Sofia. A car will pick us up early in the morning to take us to the airport and begin our trek home.

Thank you all again for your prayers.


Thursday, January 24, 2019




Today we got to see where our daughter goes to school. The school has been shut down due to a virus going around.  (I guess we picked a great time to visit!)

We left the school and went to an indoor play park for an hour and a half.  We left for lunch and stopped to let our daughter pick out gifts for the older children back home.

We spent the afternoon back at the apartment, where Jen painted our daughter's nails and we all enjoyed some time together playing with Play-dough. ( and a little TV for down time) before returning with her to the children's home.

I struggled to write this post because we did have another episode today in the middle of a lot of fun stuff. However the day began and ended well, and in every breakdown we are always working for the breakthroughs.  I didn't want to focus on the hurt in the episode, but on what we gained.

Breakthrough #1: We began to see a pattern in that these always seem to occur mid afternoon.  The emotions are legitimate, however, fatigue or hunger often magnifies them.  Unfortunately, by the time we are realizing this, our week is over.  When we return, we may have to be dilligent in establishing a routine down time in the afternoons.

Breakthrough #2: Our daughters efforts at triangulation between Jen and I were addressed.  We may have to work thru this again when we return, but today the line was made clear.

Breakthrough #3: After the episode, with no prompting from us or the interpreter, our daughter apologized for her behavior. There are no words for this moment or how powerful it was.  It brought tears to both of us.  My perspective of the day is seen thru the lens of that moment.  Winning our daughter's heart is so worth it!

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Day 3


We got our daughter's photo taken for her visa and passport to be ready when we return for the pickup trip.  After that we went to the park for a bit, she had a favorite slide she wanted to show us.  On the merry go round we began to work with asking nicely. (She's a little bossy ; ) )

We came back to the apartment so our attendant could go over some paperwork that would be notarized later on in the afternoon. We spent some time with her playing games, making necklaces and letting her braid Jen's hair.

We left the apartment around 1:30 to grab a bite before heading to the notary and picking up the pictures taken that morning.

Everything had gone really well.  After picking up the photos, she had asked to go back to the apartment. The photo above was taken minutes before we arrived at the apartment.  She had even asked for the ride on Aaron's shoulders.  We are not sure what the trigger was, but as soon as we walked thru the door, the meltdown.

It was a rough time, she said a lot. We're pretty sure the attendant left a few choice words out of the translation. The good news: She said it all, and we let her. We let it be ok for her to say it, and assured her that our love for her was unshakeable even though she said it.

The end of the day she rebounded, and everything was back to normal.  No, this is not the end of her struggles or ours, but it was a small breakthrough.

For those of you praying for the three of us during this time, thank you.  You have no idea how affective your prayers have been, both for our patience and her healing.







Tuesday, January 22, 2019


We arrived at the orphanage at 9:30 am. The director had heard our daughter's take on her first day and now wanted to hear ours.  We spoke for about 15 minutes, and then went on our way.

Today we chose to explore some of the old parts of town.  Unfortunately our daughter was not appropriately dressed, so she quickly became cold.  It was not raining but as you can see from the picture above there was a heavy fog that kept everything damp in addition to the cold.

We stepped inside the Ethnographic museum and spent about $10 to get warm. When we finished there we continued our way up the hill to ruins of an old fortress. The payoff being that you could look over the city.

When we arrived at the top our daughter was finally free to run wild, hopping on boulders and chasing the stray cats.  It was a great time of bonding as she would jump off of ruin walls into Aaron's arms.

We grabbed lunch at a restaurant at the top and headed back to the apartment for the rest of the afternoon.  We played with sticker books and numerous rounds of Candy Land. She tried on some of the clothes we had brought and loved them.

She is definitely experiencing the full spectrum of emotions. It was evident throughout the day and even as we left to bring her back to the orphanage.  We can't even imagine what is going on in her heart and mind.

Here's some of our pics from the day:






Monday, January 21, 2019

The First Meeting

We weren't sure what to expect. It would be up to the director to determine the schedule for our week with our little girl.  And of course, we were nervous about meeting her, it's amazing how intimidating a 9 year old can be!

We arrived at the orphanage a few minutes early, and waited in the courtyard for the director to arrive. We looked up and our eyes met as she was walking across the courtyard by an orphanage worker.  Immediately,  she bashfully lowered her head as she was escorted to us.  But we couldn't miss the smirk. She was excited too.

She shook our hands for an introduction, but when Jen reached out for a hug, she responded as if  she had been waiting a month to hold her new Mama. We found out later on that she had her week of outfits all planned out for us!

We went inside to meet with the director and had an opportunity to ask the director and workers lots of questions. Then the director told us we could take her out of the orphanage everyday this week, from 9:30 - 5:30, and that after this week we could set up weekly skype calls!

This does not happen often.

We took her back to our apartment, and spent the afternoon playing together.

Our prayer before our referral, was that God would ready her heart for us, and our hearts for her. We don't know how else to explain it except to say that He's done it.

Saturday, January 19, 2019

Our Referral!!

This time around, EVERYTHING has been different in our adoption journey.

For the first year, all seemed well as we ran through all the paperwork and fundraising in pursuit of a little girl in Peru. The funding all came in before we were even ready to submit our application to Peru. It all seemed to be in place as we waited.  

Then we were denied,, Then our appeal was denied. Then our final appeal again denied.

Heartbroken and confused, we had only a few days to select another country. So we went back to what we were familiar with, . . Bulgaria. Again we waited. For 1 1/2 years, nothing happened. The only thing to report was updates on paperwork and more fees.

Late last year, we thought we had an opportunity with a little girl in Lithuania. So we frantically ran around to have all our paperwork switched over and paid more fees only to once again have her slip thru our fingers. So we continued to wait on Bulgaria.

December 20th, after 3 1/2 years of waiting, we got our referral!  

This season has been one of the most challenging times we've faced as a family, both emotionally and spiritually. We've had to continually battle to keep our hearts from becoming calloused. We've had to fight for faith when nothing was happening. We still don't know what to think of any of it, and really don't have any good answers as to why. 

What we do know, is that sharing the Father's heart for the fatherless, and seeing Him bring healing to this little girl thru our family is worth every heartache, every unanswered question, every prayer offered in weakness.

Below are some pics of the city where she is from. We will be staying there for five days visiting with our daughter.  Unfortunately this will only be a trip to meet her.  We will return in 4-6 months to bring her home.